The Finale

A finale is the end, closer, or the conclusion of something. We often think of the finale as the end of a performance or a musical, but everything and everyone has a finale, a closing act. Life, marriages, love, relationships, and careers most often have an ending. But unlike a performance, we do not know when or where that last act will be. I often wonder if we knew exactly the date and time when love, relationships, or life came to a closure, would we be less inclined to take people for granted or be more kind? Would we spend more time with our loved ones, pick up the phone call from a friend instead of ignoring them, or say I love you more often?

Nobody wants to think about the “final act,” but we all have one. It is a difficult thing to imagine, and more difficult to manage grief when a spouse passes away, when a great friendship ends over something that now seems so insignificant, or when siblings who were so close as children become so distant as adults. This sentiment became particularly poignant recently as I organized items in my mother's home. During this process, I discovered numerous funeral programs and photographs of friends and family members who have passed away over the years. I took a moment to reflect, wishing I could reclaim some of the experiences preserved in those Polaroid photographs.

We put so much effort into working extra hours for that next promotion, impressing people who have no connection to us, or holding onto anger that prevents us from moving forward in future relationships. So many people live with regret because they missed the opportunity to say two simple words, “I’m sorry.”  Acknowledging that you were wrong takes humility. The admission or self-perception that you are “flawed” or that you hurt someone seems like an impossible thing to do. Some individuals are concerned that their apology may not be accepted. Everyone hates rejection. Do not let the fear of revealing that you are not perfect end a friendship or the connection with your family members. Put a finale on whatever keeps you stuck in the past! Have a great week!